Let’s talk about the avocado toast.
You know the advice.
“Skip the daily coffee.”
“Cancel that streaming subscription.”
“Cook at home more.”
For millions of people, this isn’t just unhelpful. It’s a profound form of gaslighting.
Telling someone to “budget better” when their rent alone devours 90% of their paycheck isn’t wisdom. It’s cruelty. It’s like telling a drowning man to just breathe differently.
We’ve been sold a story that financial struggle is a personal failure. A lack of knowledge. A missed step in the self-help manual.
But what if the problem isn’t you?
What if the system you’re trying to budget within is fundamentally rigged?
Let’s be brutally honest with the numbers.
9 in 10 Americans are worried about the cost of living. Not just “stressed.” Worried.
Wages have stagnated. For many, real purchasing power has flatlined or fallen.
For families of color, the gap between income and the cost of survival is a chasm.
Now, picture this: A single parent brings home $1,500 a month. Their rent is $1,400. Now, tell them to “create a budget.” The math is impossible. The advice is a slap in the face.
The classic advice is to strip your life down to the “rock bottom” essentials. But what happens when you do?
Cut the internet? You lose job applications, your kid’s homework resources, and the ability to pay bills online.
Cut the phone? You lose emergency contact and gig economy work.
Cut the car? You lose your job entirely.
This isn’t “cutting fat.” This is amputating limbs to lose weight. It severs your lifelines and accelerates the fall.
This is the part the gurus never mention: Poverty literally rewires your brain.
The constant, grinding stress of financial precarity—the “Will I make rent?” “Can I afford groceries?”—consumes your mental bandwidth. Research shows this cognitive load is like losing an entire night's sleep. It impairs your decision-making, your focus, your willpower.
They tell you to “make better choices,” while forcing you to play a high-stakes game with a sleep-deprived brain. It’s a trap.
So, if the old rules are a lie, what does real financial literacy look like? It’s not about thriving in this system. It’s about surviving it, challenging it, and building power outside of it.
Real literacy today means:
Triage, Not Optimization. Knowing which bill to pay late to avoid an immediate crisis. Knowing how to negotiate with a landlord or utility company. This isn't pretty, but it's real.
System Hacking. Mastering the complex, often demeaning maze of social services, eviction laws, and relief programs. This is the knowledge that keeps a roof overhead.
Collective Defense. Understanding that individual solutions are failing because this is a collective problem. The real power isn’t in a better personal budget—it’s in a tenant union that can fight evictions, a local cooperative that cuts costs, or a mutual aid network that shares resources.
Sovereign Building. The ultimate goal: creating our own community-owned economies—from gardens to tool libraries to local currencies—that aren’t dependent on the very system squeezing us dry.
This isn’t an argument against knowledge. It’s an argument for relevance. It’s a demand to stop pretending that a spreadsheet can solve a systemic crisis.
The next time you hear someone prescribe “financial literacy,” ask them: Are they teaching people to play a rigged game better? Or are they handing them the tools to change the game entirely?
The first is gaslighting. The second is revolution.